Darcy Branwyn

Single.

Writing romance, I need to be able get into the male perspective. I won’t say I’m great at it, but I do legitimately try.

When I first sought to get into Nick’s head, or Lothar’s. Or Peter, John, Matthew… I started with one thing; the belief that while men deal with their emotions differently than women do, they do have them, and it’s NOT okay to mess with anyone’s head or heart, no matter who they are.

Ladies, can we stop assuming all men are toxic and that masculinity is inherently evil? If you’re the one destroying them, then how can you still claim to be good?

Darcy Branwyn
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23 responses to “Single.”

  1. Abbrah Kahdavver Avatar
    Abbrah Kahdavver

    as a male that’s been removed from society for years, I don’t even know if I still have a correct perspective on men or women. It’s difficult at times. especially when you start wondering if you are the only one who sees things the way you do.

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  2. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    How do you see things? Just curious, you don’t have to say.

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  3. Abbrah Kahdavver Avatar
    Abbrah Kahdavver

    I’ll email you.

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  4. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    Cool. Thanks. 😊

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  5. GA Red Avatar
    GA Red

    Thank you. So much I want to say and hope I get a chance to do so.

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  6. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    What is it you want to say? 😊

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  7. GA Red Avatar
    GA Red

    Well, I had to get to somewhere I wouldn’t be typing with two fingers on a phone screen – I’m there now.

    Women treat men like dirt and expect them to keep taking it. Why should the men bother?

    As for “toxic masculinity” – that’s a farce. A good man will be masculine and know how to manage his supposed toxicity. Good men are strong and want to provide for their families – protecting them from harm. There are still men like that in the world. The problem is that society and the media keep telling women that it’s bad for a man to be masculine. So, our society and media keep pushing men to be less masculine, creating what we call Beta males. Then women complain that they can’t find a good man who will provide for them and take care of them. Well, quit pushing men to be wusses.

    How about we talk about toxic femininity? I hear so many women talk about “the divine feminine” but never the opposite. If there is a divine feminine then there must be a divine masculine. (And yes – well, I won’t go further with this thought here, but know there is more I want to say.)

    It all boils down to people who feel inferior to someone else try to tear down the other person instead of building themselves up. You can’t get ahead in life if all you do is bring someone else down.

    Here is my advice to men – find a woman who can take care of herself and tell her you expect her to spend as much on your ring as you do on hers. If she looks at you like you’re crazy, she ain’t the one. If she takes you to the jewelry store and you pick out rings together, paying for yours herself, then you’ve got a keeper. Women need to realize that they need “skin in the game” too.

    And, yes, I am a woman, and my masculine DH has a nice diamond ring.

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  8. GA Red Avatar
    GA Red

    One more thing – more women need to watch Emily’s videos. She is so spot on with everything she talks about.

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  9. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    Wow. Cool. I can get behind most of that but in my case my husband makes waaaaaay more than I do and there’s no way I could keep up with him even if I worked 24/7 so I guess I failed at that part. But we’ve been together for a very long time and he seems to love me any way. lol.

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  10. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    She has some good stuff, yeah.

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  11. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    And yes of course there’s a divine masculine. There has to be to maintain the balance.
    Masculinity isn’t inherently evil. Actually, I like it. 🤪 don’t judge me but I think John Wayne is kinda hot. 😂

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  12. GA Red Avatar
    GA Red

    Most definitely re: John Wayne and many others from that era.

    As far as keeping up, it’s not so much keeping up but being independent enough to manage life on your own. You don’t “need” a man but want one. And quite honestly, if a woman thinks a man has to spend X amount of dollars on a ring based on some made-up marketing scheme, then she’s delusional and probably pretty narcissistic.

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  13. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    I totally agree. In the end it’s just a ring and there’s so many more important things.

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  14. AdamFenner Avatar
    AdamFenner

    I wrote one romance, that I won’t publish because it doesn’t fit my authors brand. Read a few romance to get the tone and was surprised how much the male characters didn’t feel like men. But the fantasy of how men are by women, good or bad.
    I’m sure I made the same error in my writing though.

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  15. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    I’m seen that too. It’s hard to know what the opposite gender would be like. In the end you’re just guessing though your own filter. 🤷I did show some of my stuff to my dad and he gave me his approval. My husband said he liked it but he might be biased. 😂

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    Anonymous

    First of all, I believe the Woman’s Lib movement created this notion that men are toxic. Society tends to view the negative events of a particular group as their true core and character. Being raised in a Southern household, the men in my family were respected and honored,likewise so were the women. God created men and women to work together but God also gave humanity free will. I am puzzled with what I seeing today as I love and respect men. I notice the male friends I know are more comfortable hanging out with their friends than going on a date. This constant disrespect of masculinity is one of the main reasons, women are viewed as more challenging than cherished. The man is the head of the household in my experience and it is high time, women relearn how to present themselves. This is my motto on social media: “Act like a Queen and a King will find you. Act like a bad bitch and a dog will bite you.” I don’t know who created it but I couldn’t agree more. Great story as always, Darcy.

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  17. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    I must be a throwback or I watched too many old movies but I would prefer if men could freely act more like they did decades ago. Both genders should be respected obviously but I’ve noticed in my male relatives and with my husband that a man will do just about anything for a sence of purpose. It’s like they’re hardwired to give it all just for a little respect. When they don’t get the respect they shut down. Understandably. Who wants to feel used? I do feel like the solution to many of our current cultural challenges is for women to act respectfully. If we could do that, I think things would be so much better.

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  18. AdamFenner Avatar
    AdamFenner

    That is about all you can do. And honestly, readers aren’t always looking for the truth. The fantasy matters too. And what the opposite gender may not always be thinking about something interesting.

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  19. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    Good point. Plus everyone is different. I don’t necessarily think like every other female for example.

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  20. rebuilding rob Avatar
    rebuilding rob

    As someone who has been through a divorce and a failed long-term relationship, I’m probably more jaded about relationships and trying to get more in touch with my own mental state than I’ve ever been.

    Men and women are just built differently. It’s true. I don’t think either gender has the other one figured out.

    But as a man, I’m finding lately that it is really a double edge, sword for my gender. If we are too emotional, we are seen as wimps. If we complain, too much, we’re seeing as whips. If we don’t speak up enough, we’re seeing as quiet and cold. And if we don’t express our emotions enough, were you as heartless.

    Some days, it feels like a no-win situation in relationships

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  21. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    I could say a few things about this but it would take too long right now. Short version: in my research I found that women are biologically wired to seek out the stoic male but our culture has conditioned her to believe he is also toxic, so yeah big mess there.
    There’s of course way more to it than that but it would turn into a series of blog posts. BTW I’m not sure how I wound up with so many jaded males supporting my romance fiction. lol. But I appreciate you guys so much!!!! 🫶🏻 Thank you.

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  22. rebuilding rob Avatar
    rebuilding rob

    I’m jaded, but I’m still the eternal optimist!

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  23. Darcy Branwyn Avatar
    Darcy Branwyn

    lol. Good for you.

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